The self-help organization of Glanton Support is a life saving instrument for the spouse, family or close friends of compulsive gamblers. We come into the group feeling alone, frightened, helpless, desperate and ashamed. We hesitated to share problems and failures, fearing none could understand.
Glanton Support is warmly accepting and it offers the new member identification. The message we receive is: “Come join with us, we too were alone, afraid and unable to cope with the problem; we will share with you a new and fulfilling way of life”.
Glanton Support purposes are three-fold: To learn acceptance and understanding of the gambling illness; to use the program and its problem solving suggestions as aids in rebuilding our lives and, upon our own recovery, to give assistance to those who suffer. Our program ensures that if does not fix the situation, at the very least will help you cope.
I realized in order for me to quit, I would have to create the right formula for success. To me success was defined as being happy with myself. I knew what I needed in order to stop gambling, but couldn’t find it anywhere. This is how I Stopped Gambling, LLC was formed.
I Stopped Gambling, LLC was officially formed in April 2004. The other main purpose for starting this company was to reach out and meet other individuals who wanted to stop gambling. I founded this company because I also had a gambling problem for quite a few years and can understand what each and every member is going through. I believe that this website will not only help me, but all those who become members. Our lives have all been negatively affected by gambling and together we will work to make our worlds a better place to live…
An Introduction on Compulsive and Pathological Gambling
Pathological gambling is a progressive disease that not only affects compulsive gamblers but all those they come in contact with them on a regular basis A pathological gambler has a disorder that directly relates to impulse control. Those that are pathological gamblers continue to be negatively affected until they lose everything they worked so hard for. Once their resources are gone they will stop gambling because either they found a stop gambling recovery program, are in jail and or committed suicide. The end result is usually devastating. These individuals have it the toughest when it comes to beating their addiction. The good news is these individuals can beat their addiction and lead healthy productive lives. A pathological gambler knows that they have a problem but have the most difficult time when it comes to their conscious mind verses their subconscious mind. The following is examples of what two pathological gamblers remember while they were in recovery. They couldn’t believe their thought process when they were in the grips of this illness.
1) I woke up one morning, feeling good I hadn’t gambled in two days. I finally have a few dollars in my pocket. I want to do something positive today. Life’s great. I decided I was going to paint the deck out back. I jumped in my car put the top down and headed towards Home Depot. I stopped at the bank and decided to withdraw five hundred dollars. I knew I didn’t need that much, but I was testing myself. I failed. The second I got back in the car I was headed to the casino. I lost my money that day and the next day and the next day after that. I had no ability to stop.
2) I realized I had a problem gambling. I knew if I stayed away I would be fine. Every Tuesday I had to do a pick and delivery at a client that was one mile from the casino. I finish my pick up and headed right to the casino with out realizing I was in agreement with this decision. I was not in agreement, but my mind over ruled all rational thought. I realized where I was going, I realized I was there gambling but I had no control from the time I entered the casino to the time I left. I was always forced to leave because I had no money left to gamble. My choice was to leave get money and come back as soon as possible. Once I left the casino all rational thought came back. My mind was so twisted at this time. I use to think the gambling establishments put something in the air that only affected seventeen percent of the people who gambled. These seventeen percent were doomed to lose everything they had ever worked for. We had no choice because we had no control.
As a pathological gambler continuous down their self destructive course their illness becomes chronic and progressive.
"Where were all the women gamblers? It wasn't as if being a woman wasn't a huge risk all by itself. Twenty-eight percent of female homocide victims were killed by husbands or lovers. Which, come to think of it, was probably why there weren't any women gamblers. Living with men was enough of a gamble."
Realizing That Your Gambling Addiction Is Going Into The Extreme
It is mainly men who cannot stop gambling, but many women also find
themselves unable to quit. In this article, we will call the gambler
“he” but it could just as easily read “she.”
1. Preoccupied With Gambling
The gambler who cannot put a stop to gambling will
walk, talk and breathe gambling. He will tell stories of previous big
wins, often exaggerating the size of the jackpot. He will regularly
corner others, telling anybody who will listen, about his latest scheme,
or his unbeatable strategy. He will usually use more than one form of
gambling, being unable to stop gambling online,
at the track, or on the pokies. Even bingo and the lottery hold him
spell-bound. He loses interest in his normal activities and hobbies,
instead becoming increasingly obsessed with gambling.
2. More And More
Just as a drug addict needs an ever increasing supply of drugs to
achieve the same high, so a gambling addict finds himself betting more
and more – not for greater winnings, but to obtain the same kick and
level of excitement as before.
3. Can’t Stop
Even if he wanted to, the problem gambler is powerless to quit gambling.
He becomes impatient and irritable when trying to even cut back. For
the gambler, betting is a method of escaping problems, or relieving
4. The Cover-Up
The gambler lies to family and friends – and sometimes even to himself –
about the amount being gambled in order to hide his dependency. At the
same time, he brags and exaggerates the size of winnings. When
confronted, he denies having a problem at all, and he becomes angry if
the subject is pursued. The lies become a way of life. He withdraws from
family and friends, and even lies about his whereabouts while gambling.
The gambler will start relying on others to bail him out of financial
crises. He regularly borrows from family and friends until their good
will has been used up and they refuse to lend him any more – at least
until he repays what he already owes them – and that doesn’t happen,
although the gambler genuinely intends to repay everybody once he wins
that elusive jackpot. After using up friends and family, mortgages and
loans are refinanced. Bills remain unpaid. Life assurance is cashed in.
The gambler may even start committing fraud and thefts to finance his
6. Self Destructive
The gambler’s career is jeopardised, and relationships with
family and friends become eroded as his obsession with gambling
escalates. He feels a tremendous amount of shame and guilt after
gambling the grocery money yet again and he will consider, or even
attempt, suicide because he feels so helpless and useless.
7. Losing Control
The gambler’s personality gradually changes. He can become controlling
of those around him because he himself is out of control. He can be
bad-tempered, contrary, fault-finding and manipulative. He blames
everyone else for his financial problems, refusing to take
responsibility for his own actions.
8. No Sense Of Time
The problem gambler tends to gamble even during times of celebration and
special events. He spends his time gambling while on holiday, and
during times of crisis to make himself feel better. Inevitably, he
spends more time gambling than he originally planned.
How Can We Help?
Friends and relatives must stop enabling him to keep gambling by
refusing to give him more money, or to bail him out of any more crises.
The gambler must come to the realization that he has a problem before he
can learn how to stop gambling. He must face the consequences of his gambling. Only then will counselling and a self-help course help.